Don't Get Dates. Get the Right Dates.
submitted: Oct 15th 2008 |
by: SamFulcher
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In some ways, connecting with a long-term partner has been simpler than it is today. With the hundreds of qualified dating and singles sites on the internet today, it stands to reason that your chances of finding the right partner have also improved. But why has finding the right person become so much more difficult? Perhaps it has something to do with the quality of selection. Here are some tips that might help you cut through all of the fat and get right to the meat.
One of the most obvious things to keep in mind is selectivity. Even if you are naturally picky, you should take it one step further and become even pickier. There are plenty of folks out there but, almost equally relevant, there are plenty of sites out there that offer free trial periods. Take advantage of these free trial periods and use them to your advantage. Write down as many potential matches as possible who might meet or exceed your high standards. But don't contact anyone just yet. Just write your list, make it as long as possible before the trial period ends.
With a respectable list of candidates, see how many you can contact prior to the expiry of your free trial. In many cases, you will have to register for paid service before you can contact anyone. If this is the case and you are confident in your short-list, sign up for the shortest plan available (of course, if your aim is to keep meeting people and hooking up for short-term relationships, then it makes more sense to sign up for the cheapest plan, which is usually the longest-term plan). At this point, you should contact all of your candidates and do your best to discuss how their interests align with your own. Try your best to not sound desperate or cheesy; just be yourself.
For another approach, consider letting the candidates come to you. Again, you can use the free features of many sites to accomplish this. Post as detailed a profile as you can and make sure you include a photograph (or several). When you start receiving responses, don't upgrade your membership right away. Instead, let the inbox get crowded over a two or three week period and only then should you get your credit card and pay for the service. The key with this approach is to let as many potential matches contact you as possible. Be greedy and, of course, be selective! And when you do make the decision to pay for your membership? Pick the shortest-term possible and respond to as many candidates as possible on that first day. Write your best response as possible!
Inevitably, people always want to know how to write great personals "ad copy." That's right, ad copy. After all, you are promoting the most-worthwhile cause in your life; you! Simply, to write great ads and responses all you really need to do is push your energy level up a notch or two and try to incorporate humor as best you can. Step outside the box by doing everything in your power to not imitate the thousands of generic personal ads already listed. Stand out! Be energetic! Be funny! And lastly, make sure you incorporate a photo or two or three. A single photo will improve your response rate by a factor of seven or eight!
Whatever approach you chose tactic you choose, remember to be honest in all of your correspondence. This will not save you problems down the road, but will attract the right type of match, the one who will appreciate your true personality.
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