Don't Let Your Body Language Give Away Your Affair
submitted: Oct 27th 2008 |
by: SamanthaFulcher
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According to the Associated Press, 22 percent of married men and 14 percent of married women have strayed at least once during their married lives. This means they have had sexual relations with someone other than their spouse. Depending on the side of the fence that you are sitting on -- potential cheater or concerned spouse -- there are some clear body language signs that point to adultery. As a cheater, you will want to check this behavior; as a suspicious spouse, you will find clear signs of your partner's infidelity in these signs.
Just as a news headline tells you whether you should read further, body language provides the first checkpoint in any type of questioning. Consider an impaired driving roadblock; aside from the smell of booze, an officer will pay close attention to three key indicators when deciding to pull you over for further investigation. The same holds true for a suspicious spouse. One, the eyes. Two, the hands. Three, body position.
Start first with the eyes. When someone lies, he or she will avoid firm eye contact. The same holds true for a cheating spouse because the cheater feels that the truth will be revealed in their eyes. When asked a direct question about whether he or she is in fact sneaking around, the cheater will likely look elsewhere, at least momentarily (but more likely it will be more than a fleeting glance away). If you are cheating on your spouse, you should either practice lying to people while maintaining eye contact or avoid all eye contact, even when telling the truth. As a suspicious spouse, more often than not, the answer to your question about infidelity will be revealed in the eyes. No matter how much a cheater might practice, it is virtually impossible to lie when looking someone straight in the eye.
Second, the hands. Whether you are playing poker or are planning on poking a player, you do things subconsciously when you get nervous. In most cases, nervousness surfaces through the hands. Whether it's tapping a finger, biting nails, or fidgeting with another body part or item, your hands reveal a lot about your level of honesty. As a cheating spouse, take note of how you use your hands when interacting with others, particularly in situations where you find yourself being overly nervous (tense meetings with the boss for example). As a suspicious spouse, take note of how your spouse's behavior changes when you question him or her about their possible affair.
Lastly, positioning. Most liars and cheating spouses in particular do not intend to hurt their victims (hence why a cheater lies to his or her spouse in the first place). As such, people who have something to hide will normally avoid direct contact with their victims. Its the basis for putting authority figures behind desks or on the phone (your banker sits behind a desk, your interviewer typically turns down your application over the phone). The reason for the desk is to put a "screen" of sort between the bad-news bearer and the subject. Cheaters do the same thing when lying. Either they shift their body so that they are not face-to-face or they use other object to put distance between themselves and their spouse. As a cheater, be aware of how you interact when your spouse. As a suspicious spouse, don't ask your questions at times when your spouse has a screen -- e.g. while doing dishes or another chore where he or she is given an easy alternative to facing you.
With a large percentage of married couples straying from their marriages, you may be curious and in the research phase of your adventure. If you are seriously considering an affair, you should browse the listing of the most popular dating sites and see just how many attached people share your desire for discretion and who are also looking for an affair. When you take your next step, keep the topics discussed above in mind.
Alternately, if suspect your spouse of cheating, the items discussed here will provide some insight into your spouse's infidelity.
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