Honest Self Assessment Will Help You Get Your Ex Back
submitted: Jun 14th 2008 |
by: MollyLaws
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If you and your ex have broken up and you are frantically trying to think of some way to reverse the situation then you need to stop for a second and make sure are being honest with yourself.
Take a bit of time to think about why you want your ex back so badly, and be honest. For too many people the desire for reunion is not really about love, it's about jealousy.
To be successful in renewing your relationship it has to be about more than just you. Getting back together has to be right for both of you and not just because you can't handle seeing your ex with a new boyfriend or girlfriend.
It can sometimes be difficult to separate love from jealousy in our minds. But think hard about this because if it is really jealousy that is driving you then you are putting yourself, and probably your ex, through a lot of misery and pain for nothing and you'll almost certainly fail in the end anyway.
Now if you have worked out that your reasons for wanting your ex back are good ones, that you really believe restarting your relationship is in the best interests of you and your ex you have another bit of honest pondering to do.
You have to think honestly and clearly about why the relationship ended.
No matter what the ultimate reason for the break up was you must shoulder some of the responsibility.
Because in fact you have more chance of rebuilding your relationship with your ex if the responsibility for the break up rests mainly on your shoulders.
Think of it this way.
If you were perfect and your ex was wholly responsible for the break up then there is nothing you can change that will get him or her back. Don't start thinking you can make your ex change, because you can't.
If the break up was your fault though, then you have the opportunity to make changes to yourself that may help you to renew the relationship.
So take heart and be brave. Look at yourself and your relationship with your ex in hard, honest light and you will be giving yourself the best possible chance of getting your ex back.
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