How An Unattractive Man Ends Up Dating An Attractive Woman
submitted: Mar 15th 2009 |
by: JosephMatthews
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It's a sad fact of life that everyone out there has some type of insecurity that makes them feel "unattractive." Even the most beautiful women in the world have stuff about them that makes them feel ugly at times.
Men do this, and it isn't helped by their visual nature. We end up critical of our own appearance, just as much as women.
Maybe it's the fact that we are too short, or fat, or bald, or old? There are any number of factors that make us feel "unworthy" of the attentions of beautiful women.
But if that was the case - no one would ever be able to attract a woman at all!
In fact, the next time you're out, take a mental note of every guy you see with an attractive girl, and try and appraise whether or not you think that guy's looks are worthy of the girl he's with.
Sure, sometimes you'll find a guy who's with a girl and they are both fine credits to their species. But most of the time, what you'll find is the guys with really hot and appealing women range from "average" to "ugly" in the looks department.
That's because beauty - in men - is the exception, not the standard.
But more than that, men rely on factors OTHER than their looks to help attract women to them.
There are three major factors that most men try and utilize to the best of their ability when attracting new and exciting women to them. They are:
1. Wealth
2. Social Status
3. Personality
Let's go through these one at a time...
The first factor, being wealth and finances, is a powerful forces. More wealth means a better provider, and it's a guarantee that a lot of money will garner you some really attractive female attention. It just makes sense for them.
Using wealth as a tactic is problematic, however. Not everyone has a lot of money, so if you don't, forget trying to use this tactic. As well, using money can come off as trying to buy love, or impress them. Some women will treat you like an ATM machine if you do.
Don't get me wrong though. Pitfalls aside, it is a reliable tactic. You just have to understand the problems and make sure you actually HAVE the wealth to pull it off.
The second factor is social status. Women are very attuned to the social hierarchies of things, so having a "high status" around women definitely makes any man more attractive.
This status comes from holding a certain position of power. It could be an important job, some type of fame, or just the esteem of your peers.
However, one of the difficulties with this is that you need to be able to display social status. You can't just tell someone "I'm a very important person" and have them believe it. They have to get a sense of it themselves, and sometimes your situation is not conducive to communicating this (like meeting a woman on the street for instance. She has no idea who you are!).
Also - not everyone has a high social status. Some people are content with maintaining a medium to low level status. Where does that leave these people?
With the THIRD factor - that of Personality. The thing I like about personality is that it's something EVERYONE can use to attract the kind of women they desire, and it doesn't matter how much money you make or what your social situation is like.
Having an attractive personality is the best way for "average" or "unattractive" men to get women interested in them. Being able to make a woman laugh will turn her on more than a guy with big muscles and a full head of hair.
Understand that women are slaves to their emotions, and your personality is the method by which you trigger emotions inside a woman!
The better your personality, the better you're able to make a woman feel.
And your personality is something that can be changed and cultivated over time. You can make yourself into anything you want to be! It's truely amazing how some "losers" can become "rockstars" in the eyes of their friends and the women they like just by tweaking their personality a little bit.
So how do you do this?
The first step is to really work on your confidence. The more confident you are, the better you're able to display your personality.
Working on your social skills will also help you to be relaxed and have fun around women. This will create new opportunities for attraction.
And creating a strong emotional ties to you is the best way to create an emotional attachment. Learning to do this is your best bet.
Practice these techniques, and over time you'll find that you'll be able to gain the heart of any woman you want, no matter what you look like.
About the Author
Joseph Matthews has been instructing guys how to meet women since 2004, and is widely known as an authority in the field of confidence building and dating advice. If you want to learn more about how to meet women, check out his complimentary newsletter.
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