How to Get A Clean Slate With Your Ex
submitted: Aug 26th 2008 |
by: ErikJ.Michaels
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What do you do when your ex has just broken up with you? You know this isnt where you want to be, but how do you fix it? Is it even possible to fix it? To reassure you, yes...you can fix all this and get your life back on track, but you will need a plan and the right attitude.
First things first: how did you get here? Its important to remember that mistakes WERE made, and if your ex was the one who ended the relationship that means its up to you to make them right. Do not expect to fix all your troubles with one apology...its not quite that easy, although if you follow the right process it doesnt have to be much harder.
So here are a few tips for how to wipe the slate clean and make your ex warm up to the idea of giving you a second chance. If you follow all these ideas, you will quickly find yourself in a much better situation in which your ex is more likely to take you back, or at least hear you out so that you can convince him to take you back.
1) Completely cut off contact with him for a term of roughly a month. This eliminates any possibilities of making things worse by lashing out from all the stress and emotion flying around during and after a breakup. Last thing you need is to make your job harder.
2) Keep from making the classic and most common breakup mistakes: Drunk Dialing and Text Message Terrorism. Late-night, alcohol-induced loneliness could hurt your chances just as much as a bombardment of constant messages, calls, or emails. These mistakes not only defeat the point of not contacting him, they also shatter any decent image of you he may have had and drive him mental trying to avoid you...neither of which is a good thing if you want him back.
3) Make good use of your time apart, develop a plan! Not knowing what you are doing before you do it can lead to as many problems as Drunk Dialing or Text Message Terrorism, if not more! If you need to, seek help in finding a proven system that works for getting your ex back, and follow it to a tee. Organization is your friend.
The no contact rule is for more than just to make sure you dont end up hurting your case even more, its also to help you find time to organize yourself in more ways than just building a plan. Its clear that the relationship had problems, it would not have ended otherwise...so make good use of your time and address any issues that you have control over. Putting forth that effort will prove a good investment in the long run.
Never forget the importance of having a plan. This is a delicate process, and even if your ex is less hostile towards getting back together there are still a lot of things that can ruin your chances. Having a professional, proven plan can cover all those potential hazards, and help you a lot on your way to getting your ex back with success.
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