Win Your Ex Back With These Four Tactics
submitted: Oct 13th 2008 |
by: MarcSandford
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A tactic is defined as a maneuver for achieving a specific goal. In this instance, your goal is winning your ex back and repairing the underlying cause for breaking up.
1.) To begin with, you'll have to slowly bring her back inside your relationship. An injury won't mend instantly. A little time is required to mend a damaged relationship.
Instead of attempting to repair things as fast as possible, you'll have to figure on a month to let things cool off. While you're waiting, you should be sizing up the relationship itself. Think about issues such as whether you really do want her back and personal changes that you will make to get the relationship to work.
2.) When this cooling off period is over, you'll have to find a way to open up the channels of communication once again. It is vital that you build up a good degree of comfort and ease with her. This basically means being a good friend and being able to converse with her in a way that is relaxed.
You shouldn't have any discussions on serious issues that place pressure on her. Now is not the time to be talking about the separation or other serious relationship issues. There will come a time for this type of talk but it will have to be at a later stage.
If it seems impossible to establish a friendship, then you'll have to allow more cooling off time. Nonetheless, one month really ought to be the maximum. Excessive time apart will allow your partner to get comfortable with living without you. In addition, it increases the chances of another boyfriend to enter the picture.
3.) There will come a time when the important matter of resuming the relationship will have to be talked over. Bringing this up is going to be a very awkward and delicate time. However, you can't afford to be spending too much time as her friend. If there is no chance of convincing her, you need to know this so that you can get on with your life.
Don't place too much hope in her being agreeable with resuming the relationship. A non-committal response means that the prospect of continuing your relationship is still on her mind. It'll only require some more time for her to decide either way.
4.) One "trick" to try out is to take advantage of something that everyone has done at one point or another. What I'm talking about here is the inclination that we all have to replay certain events several times over in our heads. Whenever someone says or does something that induces a very powerful emotion, we tend to rehash that moment over and over in our minds.
This is how we process feelings that we have about a particular emotional circumstance. Typically this will happen when a person suddenly says something mean or snide that seems to come out of the blue. However, this phenomenon can also be induced with an unexpected compliment.
For this to work, you'll need to provoke a strong positive emotion from her. This will have to be a nice gesture or compliment that she normally wouldn't expect to come from you.
If you do this correctly, she'll be enjoying this over and over in her head when she is by herself. The good emotions that she has about you becomes reinforced with every "play-back". You're not likely to induce this state more than a couple of times, but that is all you'll have to do.
With skill, these tactics should help a lot in your campaign to get your ex back.
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