Keep Infidelity From Ruining A Close Relationship
submitted: Jun 20th 2008 |
by: AlexArcher
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We tend not to talk about it much or treat it as if it didn't exist but the issue of marital infidelity looms large in our society. Rather than confronting the issue, especially with someone we're close to, or attempting to find out the reason for an act of infidelity we act as though by ignoring it, the problem might somehow go away. This often leads to a worse case result instead of salvaging a damaged relationship by addressing the issue.
Infidelity can quickly spoil what seems like an otherwise healthy relationship between two people. It's divisive, very divisive. Children, close family members, and even friends and acquaintances can be hurt by an act of infidelity. A child might not only resent the parents if their relationship has been damaged by infidelity but may carry his or her own feelings of guilt. Children often feel guilty or suffer a lack of self esteem through no fault of their own and infidelity can be a cause of such feelings.
It's not just the betrayed spouse who is hurt. If you've been involved in an act of infidelity you may suffer as well. The act may well have been a wrong solution to a problem you have and don't even recognize. The problem not only remains but is now compounded by feelings of guilt or unhappiness. Movies often paint a deceptively romantic picture of infidelity. In the movies the person committing the act is often seen as the victim, his or her spouse the culprit. In real life, the opposite is just as likely to be true and the third party can be a chance acquaintance rather than the perfect lover portrayed in the movies.
Infidelity is often looked upon as the ultimate act of betrayal. In the movies and gossip magazines the issue is all too often painted in black and white. Instead, infidelity may simply be the symptom of an underlying problem which, once understood and acted upon can result in a saved relationship. There are certainly shades of gray and there are certainly complexities to consider. Infidelity isn't always an act of not caring or an act designed to hurt. It can also be a cry for help.
Counselors are always available to help a relationship where one or both parties have committed infidelity. Before a couple breaks up an otherwise stable relationship over incidences of infidelity, they should first address the issues with a trained professional. Infidelity is a pain like no other and should be addressed with a specialist. In doing so, any grievances that may be harbored between the two people can be aired out with a mediator present that can help deal with the issues. The parties can also explain what their motivations were behind the infidelity and address the reasons why they felt infidelity was an option.
When you are sick or injured you may have to undergo a period of therapy to recover. Repairing a relationship damaged through infidelity can also require a period of therapy prescribed by a professional. This may consist of a series of visits to the counselor, some rules and regulations to follow, some things to try out or, in extreme cases, a trial separation. A competent professional will generally try the less drastic measures first, leaving separation as a last resort.
A couple will sometimes jump to the conclusion that separation is the only option and this can be permanently damaging. A close relationship is unlikely to be restored and if children are involved they will of course be hurt. You owe it to yourself and your partner to seek out professional help should infidelity rear its ugly head. You're unlikely to resolve the issue by yourself no matter how good your intentions. As indicated earlier, the underlying causes of infidelity can indeed be complex and can only be dealt with by a professional.
If you are committing infidelity, do you think it's too late to recognize why to stop your infidelity? Stopping now rather than getting in deeper and recognizing that you're doing something that is jeopardizing your mental health, the emotional state of others, and the health and well-being of your children is more than enough of a reason to stop your infidelity. Seek out your significant other, talk about it, and seek counseling. Infidelity isn't the end, if you reach out for help.
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