Lack of Communication- the #1 Reason for Divorce
submitted: Aug 23rd 2008 |
by: CalvinSorren
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As researched by the American Counseling Association, the most common theme in all failed marriages is breakdown in communication. As Americans, we love to communicate, despite that fact, our communication is failing with the most significant person in our life. As a result, our country's divorce rate is holdings to 50%. This rate increases if you are in your second or third marriage.
lack of communication usually begins with the inability to discuss the smaller issues that arise. This soon creates anger and frustration build up, which ends in larger issues. Larger issues are not as easy to solve as smaller ones.
Using communication to work out your problems is key to a healthy relationship. Here are a few keys points to help you build communication with your spouse:
1. Stay quiet and focused while truly listening to what each other is saying.
2. Not only listen to the actual words, but the underlying feeling and emotions as well.
3. Try to understand the other side of the argument. Try to have an understanding from another perspective, this doesnt mean you have to agree.
4. Let the other person know you are listening by rephrasing what they have told you and to ensure clear understanding.
5. Let the other person know that you are hearing their words as well as the underlying feelings. This validates the other persons emotions.
6. Tell your partner that you are truly sincere by being aware of the nonverbal messages you may be sending your partner. This can include facial expressions and tone of voice.
7. Tell the other person how you are feeling and what they are doing wrong, by using I statements.
8. Let the person know ahead of time of your intention to discuss issues. This will allow them to gather their thoughts as well as appear less like an attack.
9. Set aside time to talk without interruptions from life or children.
10. Try to keep your discussion on topic.
Utilizing these tips will help you and your spouse to communicate more effectively, and just may save your marriage. Avoid rehashing the past, keep your discussions in the present moment. This will allow you to focus on solutions that you can work toward together.
As thousands have discovered, the Light Your Fire Program is an effective tool in avoiding marital counseling. As seen on Oprah, as well as The View.
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