Four Power Tips to Win Back Your Girlfriend
submitted: Aug 12th 2008 |
by: MarcSandford
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Getting back together with your ex after a breakup can seem to be thoroughly hopeless. You aren't the only person who has felt this way but you need to know that getting her back is very doable. It is very commonplace for couples to get together again after a difficult breakup. So calm down, lose the pessimism, and take some action.
1.) Men are supposed to be self assured and strong in our culture. They're the doers, they're expected to go out into the world and make it their own. Women intuitively expect this. The issue of sensitivity in men has been the subject of much discussion.
Sensitivity combined with strength and confidence can be attractive in a man. However, clingy behavior, crying, and neediness will you appear wimpy. This isn't sensitivity, rather, it is a manifestation of despair and panic. To her you will seem childlike.
2) You shouldn't try to make things right with her immediately after the breakup. Relationship repair cannot be achieved overnight. Let things cool down between you for about 30 days.
It is also good if the breakup happened in a mature and non threatening way. Both of you need the time to get rational and to get things into perspective. You have to understand why the breakup occurred before any lines of communication can be opened up.
3.) You should not expect, ask, or demand any admission of wrong doing from your ex. Always remind yourself that the burden is on you, she didn't approach you about getting back together. Any demands on your part will seem hostile and will drive her away. She may or may not own up to any fault but that's up to her. You have to understand that admission of fault should not involve a petty trade of blame.
4.) Embark on a program of self improvement. This program should deal with both internal and external improvements. It's time to whiten up your teeth, lose some weight, and fix up whatever is required to become more attractive. Most importantly, it's time to find out and fix the personal faults that caused the breakup to happen.
Your actions after the separation will determine whether or not you can get her back into your life. Everything will depend on the correct actions and the correct timing of those actions. Stay calm, create a plan, and act on it.
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